We’re a couple of days away from Valentine’s Day and once again I have no one to share it with. To be honest with you, I’m fine with this. Even if I wasn’t fine with this, it’s unlikely to change over the course of the next few days. Now the goal is to make the best of the situation.
It’s easy to say “it’s just another night,” but that’s not exactly true. It will be a night saturated with romance and excuses to spend money on the one you love. If you have a significant other, there’s no shame in embracing the holiday. If you’re like me, you probably want to avoid any sign of romance. To be honest, that’s exactly what I want to do. Not because I’m bitter, but because I know I could be bitter if I let myself.
So I’m going to make a plan.
Here’s what I’m going to do:
I’m going to be productive. Likely, this means I’m going to give myself “homework” for the evening. For me, this means I’m probably going to write a little bit. I’ll find a new topic to write about or revise an existing post. For me this feels productive, but it is also something I enjoy doing.
I’m going to eat well. Because I have no real plans for the evening, I can focus on making myself a good meal. This doesn’t mean I’m going to eat comfort food or a huge dessert, rather I am going to eat food I’ll feel good about eating after the mean is done. If I’m really lucky, I’ll prepare enough food left over that I’ll have a lunch prepared for later on.
I’m going to rest. After all, Valentine’s Day is the the middle of the week. Now, I might go to the gym, but I’m not going to force myself to go out brave the crowds. Come Thursday, Valentine’s Day will be over, and I plan on being adequately rested.
I’m going to appreciate myself. Perhaps this is one thing that differs from every other day of the year. I’m guilty of diving into negativity, but I want to use the holiday as an excuse to appreciate myself. By focusing on being productive and treating myself nicely, I will be able to look back on the evening and know I have nothing to be upset about.
What I’m not going to do:
I’m not going to try to make myself jealous. Specifically, I’m not going to go on social media and look at everyone’s best couple photo. I’m also not watch Valentine’s Day specials on TV focusing on the love I don’t have.
I’m not going to spend the night on Tinder trying to find “love.” Chances are, nothing is going to come out of this. To be frank, this would be an act of desperation and I think any good relationship begin this way. Rihanna might have found love in a hopeless place, but I don’t like my odds.
I’m not “eat my emotions.” If I have a whole pizza or sleeve of Oreo's, I’m not going to feel good after the fact. A little chocolate is fine, but a junk food buffet isn’t needed.
I’m not going to feel bad about myself. There’s no need to be ashamed about spending Valentine’s Day alone. In fact, if I commit myself to being productive and taking care of myself, it can be a positive evening.
Now, don’t take this as me wanting you not to enjoy your Valentine’s Day if you’re in love. If you want to go out and enjoy the night, I’d encourage you to do so. If Valentine’s Day brings joy into your relationship, you should celebrate the holiday and be happy. I only have an issue if your happiness is a result of other people’s sadness.
Perhaps I won’t spend Valentine’s Day along next year, but there’s no reason to let the holiday ruin your evening. Treat yourself nicely, and you’ll at least be working toward self-improvement.